08 May 2010
Made some new friends, and we're keeping in touch on the twitter. Also found out that Tory is from Monterey. I don't want to be labeled a stalker, but I am going to keep my eyes out for him on those holidays where children are wont to return home. Like Mothers' or Fathers' Day, for instance. Hubba-hubba.
21 April 2010
I did not realize I had not been here for almost a month. Yikes! Not sure why I resist blogging. Wait, that's not quite true; it's one of my "things", as in, a not-necessarily-rational hang up. (Is that redundant? Are there rational hang ups?) Taking the time to express myself in a thoughtful and meaningful way is a luxury I feel I cannot really afford. I don't have a real job, or at least I don't get regular paychecks. I have a tendency to feel like I must always be doing "Something ____". Something does not, cannot stand alone; it must be Something Worthwhile, or Educational, or Profitable, or that Builds Character, or Helps Others. It should also be done efficiently and promptly. Way to pop my own fun balloons - there is too much pressure to perform! No wonder my shoulders are always tense! I need to freakin' relax and goof off a little.
Now, goofing off in the name of activism meets the "Something _____ " rules and sounds fun. Coincidentally, finding such a Something led me to wanna blog about it, so I can get the blog fix in simultaneously.
In response to an Iranian cleric's idea that women's immodest dress brings calamity (including Iran's frequent earthquakes) as punishment, the Blag Hag has suggested we bring on a boobquake. She was joking at first, but boobquake as taken on a life its own, complete with facebook event page trending on twitter. So, yay, I'm going to be a joiner and a follower and dress immodestly on April 26 to aid in her test of the cleavage = quakes theory.
Talk about fun balloons! That's my big extra-curricular plans for the upcoming week! Now it's time to finish my work-work, then do some domestic house-work. Or maybe I'll cuddle up with Otto for a nap. Napping with a cat is addictive...
28 March 2010
It seems so wonderfully appropriate for this to take place during so-called Holy Week. It tickles my funny bone.
26 March 2010
24 March 2010
Cyan Banister because of her accomplishments in tech and art, 'cause Zivity is cool and because her personal story was compelling to me. Libertarian philosophy, thoughtful writing, skills of the super-techy kind, AND friends w/Penn Jillette. (Jealous much?) Check her out at twitter.
Karen Stollznow - skeptic, scientist, writer. Have to admit - I mostly picked her because she is a self-described cunning linguist. But in addition to her wit, she is Director of Bay Area Skeptics She tweets @karenstollznow, too.
Jean Kirkpatrick was a sociologist and the founder of Women for Sobriety. I only know Jean because of WFS, her related writings and autobiography, and meeting some of her many friends. She was an alcoholic who came up with WFS while getting sober without "that other program".
Also in celebration of Ada's day, check out the launch of shethought.com - I contributed an essay (first time I've submitted writing to somebody else, leaves me excited and a little nervous!). Not up yet, will tweet when it is.
10 March 2010
Using only song names from ONE ARTIST, cleverly answer these questions. Pass it on to a gazillion people and include me. Try not to repeat a song title. It's harder than you think...
Pick Your Artist: DEVO
Are you male or female: Girl U Want
Describe yourself: Uncontrollable Urge
How do you feel about yourself: S.I.B. (Swelling Itching Brain)
Describe where you currently live: Planet Earth
If you could go anywhere, where would you go: Mr. B's Ballroom
Your best friends are: Smart Patrol
Your favorite color is: Red Eye Express
What's the weather like: Jerkin' Back 'N' Forth
If your life was a TV show, what would it be called?: Love Without Anger
What is life to you: Beautiful World
What is the best advice someone has given you: Gut Feeling
If you could change your name, what would it be?: Pink Pussycat
Your favorite food is: It's Not Right
Your job is: Are U Experienced?
03 March 2010
International Sex Workers Rights Day began in 2001 - this from the background at the Sex Worker Outreach Project-USA website:
Our political objectives are decriminalization of adult prostitution, securing social recognition of sex work as a valid profession and establishing sex workers right to self-determination.Want some ways to stay informed on what's happening in the world of sex work? Try the blog Bound, Not Gagged, or Sex Work Awareness website. Lots of orgs and individuals are of course tweeting: SWOPUSA, Desiree Alliance, $pread magazine, Violet Blue, Audacia Ray, Carol Queen, and my friend Tara :)
Put your money where your mouth is: I subscribe to $pread magazine and sponsored a day in the 2010 Sex Bloggers Calendar (2011 sponsorships available).
You can find more resources by checking blog rolls and link lists at the above sites.
Workers of the world, unite!
25 February 2010
I'm staying in Dana Point for the weekend with a likely side trip to my hometown of Fullerton. Got a reunion planned with the beautiful woman now known as Sooz, a dear friend from even before high school. Way before high school: we met at St. Juliana's in 5th grade - EGADS!! That was like 1974-75!
I will be on the twitter and facebook so tweet me, poke me, make meh spelll lyk thissss...
16 February 2010
Sweetie took me to Radio Shack for goodies!!
Gonna learn me some wire-attachin', switch-flippin', current-resistin', noise-and-light-makin' *MAGIC*!! Tee hee! Can you tell I'm excited? I'm excited...
(it's also available online)
02 February 2010
I feel similarly about celebrating wedding anniversaries. What exactly does the anniversary recognize? In our case, it is the annual recurrence of the day we performed a ceremony. But, it is NOT "the day" we fell in love, or that we decided we wanted to be together; that day was not the defining moment of our relationship. It just happens to be the day we did a (mostly) conventional ritual to demonstrate "we're together and intend to stay that way" for societal and familial purposes (not to mention some fiscal benefits). We chose that day because it was convenient to the sporting event where we wanted to vacation and honeymoon - in Monterey, for the [then] IndyCar Grand Prix at Laguna Seca Raceway. By the way, for the possible racing fans out there: this was 1996, the year Alex Zanardi passed Bryan Herta by jumping the curbs in the corkscrew. And for the first few years, we did celebrate with a return trip, until moving to Monterey made a special trip moot, not to mention IndyCar/CART/IRL politics led to schedule changes and eventually eliminated the event.
Celebrating anniversaries of certain events seems almost like a magic, ritual practice. I dno't have a problem with annual events that make us recall tragedies, not to keep wallowing in loss and misery, but to remind us of what we don't want happening in the world (see anything related to wars/assassinations).
As an ex-drunk lady, I know it's been almost three years since I got drunk, but I don't celebrate a "sober-versary." That particular day was not that great a day, other than the fact I only had two beers instead of twelve (it being a Monday night and all, ha ha - at least, I think it was a Monday). What is the difference in 30 days, or 365, or 1000? All those days are in the past. Not that life before today was meaningless, but what I do now, today, and tomorrow IS more important than yesterday. The things to happen, they aren't happening now, they haven't happened yet.
I don't discount that my accumulated "time in sobriety" (ugh, recovery jargon!) is significant. It demonstrates I've learned to live in a far better way. But as Jean Kirkpatrick, founder of Women For Sobriety, points out: getting sober is just the beginning of the learning. Just as the wedding was just the beginning of a married state. And like that ceremony was not the definition of my relationship with my sweetie (which goes even beyond the word "marriage" ), the day I became an ex-drunk lady does not define my, uh, ex-drunkedness. I'm not only an ex-drunk lady; I'm ME. And ME continues to think and grow and change. For purposes of an annual celebration, I'll retain the right to use the New Year to mark changes, to reflect on all aspects of life. But I love my sweetie every single, damn day, and I appreciate his partnership, affection, personality... the way he enhances my life! Everything! And I try really hard to let him know on a daily basis, as he does with me. On the odd occasions that one of us buys the other a greeting card, or a little gift, it's memorable because it's a surprise. It doesn't happen because there are red hearts decorating the drug stores, or the calendar says "anniversary".
HOWEVER, please note that my lack of conformity regarding typical gifting practices should not be construed to mean that I discourage our parents/loved ones from sending checks so we can go out to dinner on them. 'Cause then it's about remembering and thanking the giver for a thoughtful, generous remembrance. Just sayin'.
31 January 2010
If you would like to join, visit Mojoey at Deep Thoughts for more information.
28 January 2010
So, YO! students & researchers, check out this multidisciplinary approach to areas you, too, can study, using the words and work of REAL PEOPLE and REAL-LIFE SITUATIONS in these areas:
LaborAs noted in their post, "$pread does not endorse any particular 'solution' to the sex industry; we promote the right of sex workers to tell their own stories and define their own experiences." Power to the people!
Migration and Trafficking
Violence against Sex workers
26 January 2010
I've only read the first few pages but so far feel the same unease as the authors.
24 January 2010
22 January 2010
I'm actually speaking of my self-directed-adult-learner, online and public-library based education. This week has been all about Oceanography and Pacific Coast invertebrates. This education is not enough for me to pass any exams, mind you, but it is DEFINITELY enough to continuously marvel at this amazing planet we live on, and all its amazing creatures (and to appreciate the lucky suckers who have passed the exams and get to spend their time studying said planet and creatures).
My main object of desire, I mean study, is the giant squid - architeuthis dux. However, the more I read about jellies, the more I'm loving them. Some years ago, my sweetie and I saw a pelagia colorata (a totally effin' cool purple and white jelly!!!) as we walked along the Coast Guard wharf. Now that I think of it, we saw several of them, of various sizes, floating up and down around the wharf. And that was just after we had seen a large otter dine on three or four crabs in quick succession. Didn't even have to pay aquarium admission for the nature lesson!
My goal for this week's study is to finish reading my library books - two small guides to invertebrates and one big book on the giant squid. AND to remember to find my dang notecards so I can resume my dang notetaking! (No photographic memory here.)
But that's all for later; I'm using the blog to procrastinate again. Guess I better get going on the job-type work now. *Sigh*
Hope you readers enjoy your Friday.
17 January 2010
Back in October, I got to meet my favorite horror host, Mr. Lobo. Most who know me are aware of my B-movie geekiness. You can thank the likes of Grimsley (my big crush at age 11) and Elvira for that. I love the corny humor along with the appreciation for the people who created those little treasures of film. Their hearts were in the right places, even when creativity, financial resources, and talent were not.
There is a thriving horror host community throughout the country. I want to be like Remo D, Penny Dreadful, and Karlos Borloff when I grow up. Or rather, when I have the time and funds available to create my own little web-based show. While these folks have professional casts, crew and video production, I anticipate havin' me some props, a green screen, and maybe even a puppet (tee hee hee). This whole idea is in its day-dreaming, fantasy and note-taking stage so far. But I do have a plan, and the planning is a lot of fun.
And so is research! I want my character to be a believable person with a reasonable career, lifestyle and personality. To that end, I am spending hours and hours studying her area of expertise, at the library and online. I've also started following some great blogs - great in terms of entertainment, criticism and review. I'm trying to learn more about the films out there, the voices behind their creation and appreciation. Especially chick voices, of which there are not enough.
For some unreasonable reason, I have a hard time just goofing off. The little nag voice in my head tells me I should be doing productive, constructive things, at all times, and in an orderly and efficient manner, no less. I am REALLY trying to lose that voice (habits of 40+ years are hard to break in just two or three). This horror host project helps me accommodate my compulsion to WORK while still having fun. The planning, research, note-taking, collection and organization process keeps my mind busy and stimulated, and I'm really enjoying the learning. I'm hoping this experience will help me to be satisfied with "learning for learning's sake," so it does not matter if there is a measurable result.
Sheesh, workaholic-nag-self, back off and just enjoy life, already!